Forgiveness
Faith & Community

Forgiveness: What It Is, What It’s Not, & How To Do It

When my ex-husband and I first separated, I was angry. Like throw-everything-in-the-garbage angry.  After my ex had removed his things from the home, I spent the better part of three weeks clearing out my garage, screaming and crying as I sifted through box after box of nearly twenty years worth of memories. Old photos, letters, keepsakes, even articles of

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Dating & Relationships

Everything I Know About Toxic Relationships I Learned from Disney (& How I Finally Learned to Stop Settling)

When I was seven years old, I saw “The Little Mermaid” at our local movie theatre three times. Three times. I didn’t just love Ariel – I wanted to be Ariel.  My best friends and I would spend summers at the neighborhood pool, flipping our imaginary “tails” (because the real ones hadn’t been invented yet), each of us dreaming

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Emotional & Mental Health

Overcoming Overwhelm

Overwhelm is most often not about whatever sets us off, but rather is connected to something deeper below the surface. Like the time I flipped out on my mom over broccoli. Every Sunday, my kids and I have dinner with my parents. We’ve been doing this for years. This tradition is awesome for a number of reasons, one of

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Dating & Relationships

I Kissed (Online) Dating Goodbye

I kind of feel like online dating kind of tempts us to “shop for a human.” Shopping for humans is weird. I guess we shouldn’t be surprised then that “trying them out” is even weirder. I’m not saying online dating is all bad or that it can’t work. But to make it work, you gotta be willing to work. 

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Single Parenting

Feeling manipulated by your kids?

Maybe you’ve heard of codependency in relationships, but did you know it can spill over into your parenting? See if any of these sound familiar: You often tolerate quite a lot of misbehavior, but then end up extremely frustrated with your children. You may also regularly find yourself angry or yelling at your children.

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Dating & Relationships

A Place to Call Home

In the last year of my marriage, my then husband and I hand selected the fixtures and finishes of the semi-custom “forever” home we’d commissioned to be built. It was a farmhouse-style abode, nestled among towering box elder and redbud trees, with a trickling stream playfully lapping at the property line. It was the largest piece of property we’d

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Emotional & Mental Health

Is “No Contact” Biblical?

“No Contact” is a method for dealing with abuse in which the target stops interacting with the abuser entirely. The idea behind it is to cut off the abuser from the attention they receive from a target, as abusers intentionally manipulate the people in their lives to garner power and control over them. Abusers often do this by creating

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Abuse Recovery

Three Things You Can Do to Handle a Narcissist’s Smear Campaign

Just because a relationship with a narcissisticu abuser ends, does not mean the abuse itself will stop. In fact, a separation or divorce may give an abuser the impression they no longer have to “play nice” to keep the victim close, and they may continue to abuse with less restraint than before as they use the children (and the

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Abuse Recovery

Three Critical Steps to Setting Boundaries with an Abuser

Defusing a conversation with an abusive person can be very difficult. In the barrage of insults, accusations, and harsh words, many abused people find themselves reacting. Given that fact, it’s not uncommon for the abused person to wonder if they are in fact to blame for their abuse. Stopping the cycle involves disengaging your emotions from the situation to

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